These days there is a lot of talk about 'letting go' but what about 'letting in?' I am uniquely qualified to speak about detachment as my losses in recent years have been staggering. When I say that you will be okay no matter who or what you lose, I mean it. My message has depth and weight.
What happens after you let go? There is this palpable 'vacancy' floating through your mental, spiritual, emotional and sometimes physical world. The weightlessness can feel like a relief similar to a deep sigh or a good cry.
Then comes the unbearable lightness of being.
The emptiness that follows 'letting go' can become addictive if you allow it. I know all too well how having nothing and no one can switch from liberation to bondage in the blink of an eye. At some point you have to let something in. You did not lose everything in order to walk through the world starving. Emotional or financial anorexia can give you such low lows that you actually feel high.
Let in the good air, the sun, the smiles of strangers, the new friends, the story you did not see coming, the new adventure, the new emotion, the new way of looking at old experiences, the new relationships that rise from the ashes of an old one.
Just for today...let it in.
A most unlikely answer to the question of "Why me?"
The moment when acceptance shifts from "begrudgingly" to "willingly".
Our feet are humble, honest and reliable narrators. We should listen to them more often. Mine told me that it was time to go. All they had to say was "Aloha."
Imagine what you could do in your own community if you listened to the ideas of the person beside you and said "yes" instead of "no."
There is no reason to wait. Your practice of daily self-care can start today.
It is a lot easier to hurt, dismiss or lie to someone that we deem to be an "other." What happens when we focus on our similarities instead of our differences?
Walking through impostor syndrome. How to connect with your truth when you feel like a fraud.
How do we gracefully navigate the void once we have done the work of letting go?
Other people are mirrors into our own soul. Within bad advice is the gift that keeps on giving.
When people show you who they are, believe them. Your intuition is a gift to be treated with respect. Those red flags you see are also a gift.