Raise your hand if you have ever been in a situation where someone either does or says something to alarm you in a situation and instead of honoring your intuition you simply say to yourself "Oh I must be blowing this out of proportion" or "I am sure they didn't really mean THAT. They must have meant..." I would bet that at some point in your life you have done this. We are human after all and have a tendency to discount our own experience in favor of keeping the peace.
The importance of honoring red flags and the awareness that they bring are difficult gifts that I have previously spoken about at length. It is disruptive to notice and acknowledge red flags. Obviously, in the long run, it is helpful to identify them and address them. But identifying a red flag in the present moment messes everything up! That person who was attempting to manipulate you has suddenly hit a roadblock. That person that did not have your best interest at heart has instantly lost their footing. And now, with this new awareness, you have to make uncomfortable decisions.
Recently while having a discussion with a friend about some pretty vibrant and obvious red flags they shared this quote: "When you look at the world through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags." It was a reminder that honoring our own intuition and awareness plays a big part in discernment. Are we ready to take off the glasses and do the work that goes into dismantling illusions, manipulations or abuse? And if we choose not to remove our rose-colored glasses are we also being manipulative? Refusing to see people, places, and things, as they are or purposefully attempting to morph them into something they are not, is fairly controlling and manipulative. Is it not? Maybe we leave the glasses on because the labor of dismantling the illusion seems like the heavy work when in fact carrying masks, maintaining illusions and manipulating ourselves or others is actually the exhausting work. Dropping the glasses, rubbing our eyes and seeing clearly is action, discernment, and pure liberation for ourselves and others.